If Only He Knew

by Gary Smalley

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With over 800,000 copies in print, If Only He Knew by bestselling author Gary Smalley has long been esteemed as one of the premier books on marriage for men. Smalley helps men understand their wives and meet their needs in order to establish a loving, thriving relationship that will last a lifetime. Newly revised and expanded to reflect up-to-date research and the current cultural landscape for today’s modern audience, this book is the perfect guide for husbands who want to love their wives and strengthen their marriages in a way like never before. Using humorous and touching illustrations from his own life, as well as case histories and biblical examples, Gary Smalley maps a blueprint to a better marriage that will have a deep and lasting impact on men and their wives.


About the Author

In 1979, Gary & Norma Smalley were encouraged to begin an organization focused on helping families. After the formation of a board, they launched the CMI organization out of Waco, Texas. A few years later they moved to Phoenix, Arizona and Gary spoke in places all over the country. Gary co-authored two books with Steve Scott during that time titled, If Only He Knew and For Better or For Best. Those books have sold over one million copies each and have become marriage classics.

In 1985, the organization's name became Today's Family. That year, Gary and Norma hired more staff to enlarge their reach around the country.

In 1988, Gary partnered with American Telecast's Steve Scott and they launched a nation-wide infomerical with Dick Clark as the host of a half-hour television program. That infomerical was re-introduced in 1990 and 1992 through John Tesh & Connie Sellecca and then Frank & Kathie Lee Gifford. The series sold over four million tapes.

Since those early years, Gary Smalley has become one of the country's best-known authors and speakers on family relationships. He is the author and co-author of 28 best-selling, award-winning books along with several popular films and videos. He has spent over 35 years learning, teaching, and counseling. Gary has personally interviewed hundreds of singles and couples and has surveyed thousands of people at his seminars asking two questions: What is it that strengthens your relationships and what weakens them?

Gary's 28 books combined have sold over 6 million copies. Several of them have even been translated into different languages. The Blessing and The Two Sides of Love have won the Gold Medallion Award for excellence in literature. The Language of Love won the Angel Award as the best contribution to family life. All other titles have been top-five finalists for the Gold Medallion Award.

In the last 35 years Gary has spoken to over two million people in live conferences. He has been presenting his live two-day marriage seminars, once a month for the last twenty years. Over one million people have attended Gary's live presentations. His award-winning infomercial "Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships" has appeared to television audiences all over the world.

Gary Smalley has appeared on national televisions programs such as "Oprah Winfrey", "Larry King Live", "Extra", "NBC Today Show" as well as numerous national radio programs. Gary has been featured on hundreds of regional and local television and radio programs across the United States.

Gary is president and founder of the Smalley Relationship Center. The center provides conferences nation-wide, books, DVD. Gary and his wife, Norma, have been married for 39 years and live in Branson, Missouri. They have three married children, Kari, Greg, and Michael, and seven grandchildren.

Gary's book, The DNA of Relationships has been put together based on years of new research. In this series Gary provides the most practical principles on making sure that your relationships will last a lifetime and why many couple never reach the close connection that they desire.

Note:  Gary Smalley recently passed away on Sunday, March 6, 2016. He was 75.